Monday, February 11, 2013
Weekly Whisper: You are more than your relationship status
Many women have a love/hate relationship with Valentine's Day.
As everyone knows, Valentine's Day is a day to celebrate love, and more specifically, romance. Yes, there are those who have a wonderful relationship and label February 14 as their favorite holiday. They will spend the evening going out for a romantic dinner, cuddling by the fire, and sharing passionate kisses with their man. And that's great!
But then there's everyone else. Not just single women (who tend to spend Valentine's night with a sappy romantic movie or novel and a pint of Ben & Jerry's), but women whose marriage or relationship is less than loving. Women who don't feel loved by their partner. Women who scoff at the idea of romance because the last time they were wooed, or felt any sort of romantic passion, was thirty years ago.
And that's where the love/hate thing comes in. It's not that they don't like the idea of romance, flowers, and, of course, chocolate (they are women, after all) but Valentine's Day is sort of a slap in the face because they are well aware that they are more likely to win the lottery than experience the romance they long for.
This weekly whisper is for those women. If you are single, or in a relationship that is less than ideal, one that exacerbates the idea of Valentine's Day, remember that your relationship status does not define how much you are loved. You are more than your bad marriage. Being a princess does not come from the presence of a prince in your life. It comes from the fact that God is your Father.
It's okay to buy that pint of Ben & Jerry's and rent that romantic comedy. But also take a moment to pick up your Bible and read Psalm 136, as a reminder of the most important kind of love. The one that never let's you down, never disappoints, and never disappears.
Phrase to meditate on: I AM MORE THAN MY RELATIONSHIP STATUS.